Date: Saturday, 28th June, 2025
Text: Proverbs 18:21
Author: Pastor Adedeji Fadehan
Exhortation:
The fifth principle necessary for marital success is the Mutual Communication Principle. Your spouse is supposed to be your gist partner, your closest confidant. Communication can be either verbal or non-verbal. Your spouse is supposed to understand your body language. He or she should hear you even when you have not verbally said anything.
The story was told of a policeman who had served in different part of Nigeria for a period of thirty five years. Routinely, he was moved to different states of the nation during his time in the Nigerian police force. During this time, he didn’t move with his family but left them in the town where he had his own personal landed property.
Eventually he was retired. At this time he no longer travelled as he used to do but was always with his wife under the same roof. He discovered that he always had quarrels with his wife. It was as if they were two strangers forced to live under the same roof- after about four decades of marriage! It was as if they then started courtship all over again.
Before then he had been a visiting husband who only came home once in a while. The family was financially stable but mutual communication was very poor due to proximity issues. Mutual communication enhances closeness. You may find it challenging to understand somebody you don’t frequently talk to.
After a while the frequent heated arguments and quarrels between the couple reduced to the barest minimum because they eventually became close and understood each other via frequent mutual communication.
The word of God says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” Proverbs 18:21
Action Nugget:Invest in mutual communication between you and your spouse and enjoy the life-giving benefit of your tongue.
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